Please note: The Pedophile series has now been revised and replaced by a book. It has been published under the title: "PEDOPHILES AND YOUR CHILD". It should be available shortly from Trafford Publishers and in bookshops. For ordering on line, including electronic transfer
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Below you will find a small sample text of the book.
Those who ever had an interest in the “nurture or nature’ debate will know that certain life programs are inherited. Examples are the psychopath, the musical genius, the compulsive gambler, the inventor, the survivor, the pessimist and so the list continues.
How does this relate to the pedophile issue?
It seems certain that there are people who have been predisposed genetically to become sexually attracted to children in preference to adults. They are ‘born’ that way and any intervention or treatment is unlikely to affect a cure. And as long as their final aim is to find relief from sexual tensions in the body of a child, frankly, I do not care how they got into that mindset. Anyone who rapes or otherwise exploits children sexually I would like to see put into some sort of cage where it would not be possible for them to ever come near a child again. It is similar to murderers. We put them away without regard as to how they got into such a position.
There is, however, a sinister flip side to the coin:
We will never know how many of our world's children have been actually raised to become pedophiles. This is a topic that has not found its way into the media nor does it appear of interest to anyone working in the field. To illustrate, recently I heard about the following case: An adult male had confessed: “I could never have sexual intercourse with a woman, even if they paid me a high sum of money.” After a string of sessions with a psychotherapist he finally was able to recall the long forgotten first sex education he had received as a young child. Another just a little older child explained to him the difference between boys and girls. He described the female genitalia as a foul stinking piece of meat, adding the worst adjectives he could think of. Now in his early thirties the ‘ex pupil’ shuddered at the thought of ever having sex with a woman.
This example shows how early impressions – consciously – are forgotten or repressed while their emotional sting may follow them into the ripe adult years. A compulsion forces the individual to obey a stimulus that took place at a time long forgotten. It has become a part of the person’s personality.
How many children at an impressionable age have been conditioned in ways similar to the one mentioned in the above paragraph? Even in our time, how often is everything ‘down there’ described as dirty and shameful? Or fear is instilled by explaining that sex is a sin and will be punished accordingly? How many kids would dare to mention to either of their parents that they have sexual feelings? How many children hide their feelings – and activities - from parents, indeed from adults in general? After all, they have found there is no one willing to listen and take their concerns seriously.
While some of those are less affected, how many become sexual cripples? And out of those, for how many does a broad path lead to becoming pedophiles?
In many Western nations a witch hunt has developed during the last decades, a paranoia where anybody showing an interest in working with children is suspected of having sinister motives. This is reflected in absurd measures that have been created to protect children from the evils of sexual predators. The children, in turn, become aware of this. Having been exposed to the paranoia, many may well grow up into a suspicious, hostile next generation. Furthermore, their progress in the preparation for life that could be achieved by youth leaders, volunteers and mentors is lost.
If my hunch is correct it appears that, at least in the long run, one measure to stem pedophilia is to take a new approach in the education of our children. When discarding outmoded beliefs and maintaining honesty in the facts of life from an early age becomes the norm we will have come a long way toward a future, sexually mature society where children grow up feeling safe. That, however, will find much opposition and controversy and will take many years. As we are not willing to wait that long, how can we protect our children from harm – now?
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